With so many divorce and negativity happening, I want to come up with the positive of this amazing relationship.
Whether it is a love marriage or an arrange marriage, the two people enter into this complicated relationship. HUSBAND AND WIFE. Neither of them is super. They are support system of each other. Like any other relationship, this relationship evolves with time. And every husband wife has to go through few stages. Knowing each other, hating each other, accepting each other and become habits of each other.
All married goes through these stages, sooner or later. The normal course of marriage starts from knowing each other. Giving importance to spouse’s likes and dislikes and taking care beyond anything about those little things. Most lovable phase for husband and wife. You get to know good qualities of each other. Actually the good qualities get showcased earlier. The bad qualities show it colours little later.
From there only starts the hating phase. Yes, it is the time when you encounter the intolerable qualities of each other. This phase is inevitable because no one is perfect. It is the most difficult phase for husband wife. There were constant fights. But don’t be afraid of fights. Having fights is important. It is like release of toxins. What matters is do not linger to fights for longer. So fighting is not bad, it is important for you to wrap up the fight and move ahead. Remember love does not go anywhere. It always exists in your relationship. My advice during this phase. Stay calm, involve yourself in creative activities – reading, writing, music, dance, painting, sketching, traveling and ignore sometimes.
Once you get through this and understands that love is the base and all these are petty issues, you reach to the level of accepting each other with the imperfection of each other. Love takes front seat again. You know now what are the weak points of each other. You know how to ignore or overcome with these weakness or as mentioned earlier intolerable qualities of each other. You respect each other and strengthen the bond further. Not to deny, you do not stop fighting with each other even in this phase. But you very well know or got trained till now, to overcome these fights.
In the last, you become so used to your spouse presence, that you become habitual. The sweet bonding prospers above all levels. Fights become part and parcel. Both become one to make their life beautiful. They become inseparable habits of each other.
These lovely phases of husband wife is only one sweet viewpoint. The phases do not come with timelines. It purely depends on two individuals how they perceive different phases.
Also, the interference or influence from outside has been ruled out. However, I still strongly feel that LOVE IS THE BASE and both husband and wife should remember that despite any outer influence or situations and support each other. Evolve in the relationship. Grow old with your spouse. Escaping the relationship is the easiest way. Give chance for the person who loves you. Do not give chance to the wrong person. Take right decisions for your life.
Dedicated to the beautiful relationship of HUSBAND AND WIFE.