Emails were shared and talks over phones started. It was a team work. Since parents were not so updated with technologies, I shared the emails and phone calls were done by my parents. The cycle started.
Though the cycle has started the first meet happened through a relative and not through any websites or newspaper advertisements. The first meet happened without the guy. I met the family of future prospects. The guy was abroad and gave his parents the responsibilities to filter the girls. A telephonic interview had also happened with me prior to meeting. So I had crossed one stage already. Since the guy was abroad, my parents were very keen to settle the marriage here. However, I was afraid to go abroad. I do not want to go to any place, where I have to plan prior to meet my parents. Whenever, I feel like, I should go and meet them. A small wish of my heart. Though my mother convinced me nicely. Indian mothers have very good convincing power. They have so many examples and stories related to each situation that you have to give it a thought. She made me understood, that such wish does not get fulfilled with increasing responsibilities after marriage and eventually everyone end up meeting their parents less. Though I did not agreed to this viewpoint, but somehow I got convinced. Instead of listening to so many stories and viewpoints, it is better to agree.
Dressed up in suit, an Indian attire, finally I met only the parents of future prospects in a restaurant. There was father, mother and some of the relatives. I was interviewed. There were questions about cooking, hobbies, etc. Do you know to cook? is the normal question in such sort of meeting. It is not important to master the art of cooking, but it is a normal expectation from a female. Yes, with changing time, the viewpoint is changing. When I answered back, that i just know the basic cooking. The interviewee family seemed satisfied. When asked about my hobbies, I replied dancing and singing. To this, i feared, if they could ask me to sing or dance. Thankfully not. The family was quite understanding and they do not viewed meeting as an exhibition. They acknowledged it gracefully and replied, in abroad you could easy to socialize with these hobbies. Quite interesting. I liked the family and was happy to meet them. Though matters the son.
After meeting me, they were supposed to meet another girls. Remember, they were filtering girls. So, despite having good social hobbies, I was not able to cross that stage. Faced my first rejection, not from boy, but from families. After the rejection, came a long list of instructions from my mom. You should not have said “basic cooking”. You should wore ‘Saree”. I was OK with the family decision. But my mom was working on the possible reasons, so that I do not face further rejections. Moms are difficult to understand.
This is how my first virtual prospect meeting, without meeting the guy. We can count it as number zero.
Number one will happen soon.
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