With the new learning of getting BEST for me, I got ahead in my life. Every meeting was a new opportunity to understand different types of people. It also gave me chance to know myself better. Each time I met a prospect, I got a step closer to what I am looking in my life partner.
This time I met with the guy, who was a HR manager in a reputed firm in Bangalore. The meeting again happened along with families in a restaurant. The formal introduction follows. By this time, even my parents were quite aware of my thought process. They after getting into the conversation, soon cleared the point, that I would love to work even after marriage. It is only now in last 5-10 years when people in India, especially North India are able to broaden their outlook towards working females. and these conditions have to be cleared before marriage. Unbelievable, but interesting! So my parents cleared it. The prospect father happily replied to it, “It is good, if the female is working, money will come home.” Hearing this answer I was little worried. I don’t do work for money only. It might be just slip of tongue. You know in that one hour of meet, both prospects and even the family members could speak out things, which should not be spoken. The prospect father does not seems to be greedy. He was a jolly senior citizen. Still it made me think.
My conversation with the guy went well. He called me ‘Madam’. He was an ambitious guy. He told me, he always aspire to get best for himself. Too in line with my new learning. He seemed to be hardworking. He shared with me his success story, how he reached to a good position in his career. How he meets different types of people being a HR. I cross questioned him back, by asking Human Resources is generally considered as female area. How he justifies himself in such area. To this he replied beautifully, “Now a days women are entering into every field, let male also try every new fields. No job is gender specific. It’s all people mentalities. Despite women cooking in 99% of Indian kitchens, most of the five stars have males as head chefs.” Smiles on my face after listening this. I was sure, this guy respect females. And also have a logical thought process.
Still I was not 100% convinced. Somewhere in conversation he told me that he recently booked a brand new luxurious car and he is super excited. He said, he always choose luxurious things for him. Though it is not a bad thing. But I might love to get some normal stuff, which might not be luxurious. What if, we would not be able accept this quality of each other?
I went back and my parents asked my viewpoint. I told them, I am not convinced. They asked me the reason. I told them about what all I thought. One his father response to my job and other the luxurious attitude. As I expected, these were silly things for my parents. They said, I think too much. They were very much convinced with the family. Their all parameters were getting fulfilled. The family background, financials, guy was good looking, working at high position with good earnings, family is open to me working. Nothing seems to be wrong to them. They were trying level best to convince me. Letting me know, all advantages. I finally said, I want to have one telephonic conversation with the guy. This was a big thing to ask for being a girl. Yes, typical Indian families, girls are not supposed to be so much open. My father out rightly rejected this request. My mom, some how convinced him. Very scared my father talked to prospect father and told my wish and they agreed. My father was highly impressed that prospect family agreed and did not questioned her girl back.
The guy called me. He again called me “Madam”. He said, “My father told me I have to appear for the second round of interview. So here I am, Madam. Please ask, whatever you want to.” At that moment, I felt uncomfortable. We talked for 30 mins. Somehow I felt, his HR job was overpowering his own character and also the luxurious attitude. I might be wrong but he was not the the one for me.
Despite the second round of interview as he quoted, I was not convinced. Though my parents tried to convince me for next two months. Thankfully, in the end, they respected my decision. There are areas in India, where families do not even ask their daughter’s wish before getting married. I feel blessed with such parents who understood and respect my thought process.
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